Teen Girl Support Groups

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Weekly Teen Support Groups

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in Santa Monica.

A Note From the Santa Monica Family Counselor

A teen support group offers an opportunity for teenagers to gain greater insight into themselves and others, as the members talk about issues that are common to teenagers, but are not always discussed openly. – Sandra

The purpose of this support group is to create a safe space for your adolescent to express themselves, explore their feelings, improve their self-esteem, and learn more effective ways to communicate and solve problems. Recognizing the good in themselves and others, while embracing their differences, is an another important part of what they will experience within this group.

  • Free initial parent consultation
  • Groups will meet Saturdays over summer break at 10:30 a.m.
  • 1421 Santa Monica, Suite 108, Santa Monica
  • The fee is $100/month per person

**Note: If your teen is struggling, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it. I invite you take that critical next step, and allow me to demonstrate the support I can offer to you and your family. – Sandra

Reserve Your Space. FREE Parent Consultation.

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

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Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

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Santa Monica Teen Support Groups

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A Note From The Santa Monica Family Therapist

Teen support groups are a wonderful way for families to maximize their dollar in today’s economy. Read on to learn more about my teen support groups. – Sandra

General Format
Participants are seated circle so that they can see everyone’s face, including those on either side of them. Each teen is given the opportunity to speak. Members are asked to speak loudly enough for everyone in the circle can hear them. Participants are asked to not interrupt the speakers.

Use of “I” Statements
Privacy is a key element to all talking circles, and gossiping about others is not allowed. Members will be encouraged to use “I” statements, to take personal ownership for their thoughts and feelings, and thus communicate more directly. This can enhance each members’ capacity for intimacy through increasing the quality of their communication.

Participation is Voluntary
No one is forced to participate in group discussions, however, everyone will be encouraged. Members will be invited to listen beneath the words, and attempt to pick up the feelings that the words are expressing. Active participation in the group discussions will allow the participants to learn from each other, as well as discover that they are not alone in their feelings,

The Goal
The goal of this type of teen support group is to facilitate teens in maximizing their social skills and self-awareness, and discovering their authentic expression. All potential members will be interviewed by me prior to joining, to verify that the group is a fit for them.

Creating a Safe Space
The main ground rule is that everything discussed in group is held in confidence so as to create a safe space for members to feel free to open up. The groups I lead are open, meaning that members will be added as other members decide to leave. Use of cell phones will not be permitted during the group.

**Note: If your teen is struggling, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it. I invite you take that critical next step, and allow me to demonstrate the support I can offer to you and your family.

Reserve Your Space. FREE Parent Consultation

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

.verified by Psychology Today.

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

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Addressing Unspoken Family Rules

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A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

It is important to identify your rules for dealing with your teen as well as their rules for dealing with you. – Sandra

PARENTAL RULES:

  • “I’ll give you anything you want if in return you will love and respect me.”
  • “I need to raise my kids the exact opposite of how my parents raised me.”
  • “Since I am your mom, I obviously know what is best for you.”

TEENS RULES:

  • “Whatever trouble I get into, my dad will get me out of it.”
  • “It’s my parent’s job to do everything for me.”
  • “Everything should go my way. If not, I get to throw a tantrum and disturb everyone around me.”

WHERE DO THESE RULES COME FROM?
We usually make up rules based on varying experiences we have had in life, their purpose being to help direct the exchanges we have with others. These rules are generally neither right or wrong, but they either either work–or they don’t.

You should keep using the rules governing your exchanges with your teen only if you are getting positive results. Remember, hidden rules can sabotage a relationship.

We ultimately need to try and bring hidden rules out into the open. If there are hidden agendas or rules, people usually feel they are trapped, unclear about what is expected of them. This often leads to rebellion and/ or power struggles.

By putting the rules on the table they can be talked through, and made transparent. An example of naming the rules would be “the reason I can buy you the things you want is because I worked overtime. The reason I can do this is because you help out at home with the work I normally do. By your helping me, I can help you.”

Teenagers then know that there is a cost for what they are getting. By doing this, you help teens become more aware and grateful. Adolescents know that they must take part in the exchange, if only to say “thank you.”

It can be very helpful to first approach a teen asking “What do you want?” and clarify what that means to them. You can then ask the big question…”What are you willing to give to get that?”

Remember, you are in the power position. Power, used wisely, can eliminate power struggles allowing you to focus attention on creating exchanges that work.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

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(310) 951-5678
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For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

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Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Would Parenting Support Help?

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A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Conscious parenting requires pausing to evaluate whether your words or actions are truly necessary, or helpful. – Sandra

Encouraging your teen should never include a demeaning or threatening word, nor cause them to lose their dignity or self-respect. Your encouragement should inspire and uplift them, and guide them towards a path of hope and possibility.

When teens act out, disobey, behave rudely or display disturbing emotions, it’s easy to dismiss their behavior as “bad” or “wrong.” It’s helpful to see these behaviors as your teen’s best attempt to meet their needs. It is an invitation for you look at your relationship with your teen, and try to discover the source of their unmet need.

Although it can be exhausting to cope with the challenges and demands typical of this period, parents need to deal with their teen’s mis-behavior in a straightforward way that affirms the dignity and power of both parent and the adolescent. The parent who cannot tolerate their teen expressing their autonomy (wanting to do things independently) will make their child feel as though the price of their budding independence is the loss of their parent’s love.

Respectful parenting means being able to see the frustrations your teen encounters when pushing against your boundaries as opportunities for them to learn self-control and respect for others.

If your teen is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it. 

Menu of Services Offered:

Call Now to Schedule a Free Consultation!

Click to Call:

(310) 951-5678
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For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

What Is A Recipe For Happiness?

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A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Is it possible to remain happy while figuring out solutions to the obstacles that come up in life? Here are some thoughts you might want to share with your teen. – Sandra

The definition of happiness differs for everyone. Happiness can be anything from a blissful state of euphoria to a gentle feeling of contentment.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you on a daily basis? Does your happiness rating change from day to day, dependent upon the circumstances?

Have you ever noticed how feelings can change in a second? Like the weather, the sky can be filled with scattered clouds, and then suddenly it can get bright as a cloud moves away to reveal the sun.

Happiness is not some end point to be achieved, but rather something that occurs in moments. A more effective goal than trying to be happy all the time is to seek a sense of peace and contentment through the ups and downs, learning how to see and accept life as is, responding appropriately to each situation.

Our experience of life is often based on our perception of the events that are happening within it. As you face your challenges, try to stay aware of the love and abundance already present in your life.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

Menu of Services Offered:

Call Now to Schedule a Free Consultation!

Click to Call:

(310) 951-5678
.

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Effective Parenting: Leading By Example

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A Note From The Santa Monica Family Therapist

The foundation of effective parenting is leading by example. When children observe how we treat them and others, they learn how to behave. – Sandra

A parent’s interaction with their child literally impacts their child’s brain development, and parenting styles can be passed down through generations.

In our society, shaming is an accepted parenting tool for controlling kids. Our body language, facial expressions, the tone and volume of our voice, threatening violence, withholding affection, rejecting behavior, using demeaning words or physical punishment definitely impact a child’s self-esteem and can teach them aggressive behavior.

As parents, we are responsible for modeling self-respect and respect for others. When we treat children with respect, they learn to treat themselves and others respectfully.  The foundation of any respectful argument involves avoiding the following: raising your voice, swearing, name-calling and pointing your finger in the other person’s face.

Conscious parenting involves pausing before speaking or acting to evaluate whether our words or actions are necessary. (Will your words or actions truly help the situation?) Encouraging your child should never include a demeaning or threatening word, act, or deed, nor should it cause them to lose their dignity or self-respect.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

Menu of Services Offered:

Call Now to Schedule a Free Consultation!

Click to Call:

(310) 951-5678
.

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Parenting Teens After A Divorce

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A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

It’s often difficult for teens whose parents have split apart. Wherever possible, try to communicate directly and privately with the other parent about matters relevant to your children. Read on for more suggestions. – Sandra

A teen doesn’t like the feeling that he or she must act as a messenger between hostile parents. Adolescents want parents to talk with each other so that the messages are communicated the right way, and don’t feel like they are going to mess up. It is unfair to make your teen carry messages to your “ex” because you find it too awkward or aggravating to do so yourself.

Avoid arguing and discussing child support issues in front of your teen. Most teens upon hearing these things feel that their existence is a burden on their parents. Do not put your teen in the middle of your child support disputes.

It hurts your teen very much to hear one loved parent criticize the other loved parent. When teens hear bad things about one parent, they hear bad things about half of themselves. Even if you are sure you’re right, try to avoid criticizing the other parent around your kids.

DESTRUCTIVE REMARKS THAT YOU SHOULD NOT MAKE:

  • You’re lazy/stubborn/bad tempered, just like your mother/father.
  • Your mother/father put you up to saying that.
  • Your dad/mom doesn’t love any of us or he/she wouldn’t have left us.
  • You can’t trust her/him.
  • He/she was just no good.
  • If she/he loved you, she/he would send your support checks on time.
  • Someday you’ll leave me too, just like your father/mother.

All of these remarks raise fear and anxiety in your teen.

It is very difficult for the teen of divorced parents to cope with feeling “caught in the middle.” If they want to tell you about time spent with their other parent (and they usually don’t), listen closely and politely, and then stop. Encourage your teen to love both parents. Asking your teen to take your side in any situation regarding your ex-spouse can create a tremendous amount of stress for your teen. Your teen wants to love both of his or her parents. Avoid putting teens in the position of having to take sides.

Complaining to your teen about how lonely you feel makes them feel guilty and sad. It’s not healthy for a teen to be consumed with worry for their parents’ ability to survive. Let your teen be a teenager. Your teen will have the best chance of growing up to be a functional human male or female with both parents as role models and nurturers. This means that there should be some way of them having access to the good each parent has to offer.” (Acknowledging Ruben Francia)

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

Menu of Services Offered:

Call Now to Schedule a Free Consultation!

Click to Call:

(310) 951-5678
.

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Why Teens Experiment With Drugs

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A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Did you know that self-medication through drugs or alcohol is often an attempt to regulate or avoid painful feelings? – Sandra

Feelings aren’t always comfortable. Some teens so strongly dislike feeling sad, anxious, angry or insecure so much that they will do anything to avoid these feelings, such as experimenting with mood altering chemicals.

Teens at high risk of actually becoming addicted to these substances are often lacking deep connections with others. Meaning, they feel emotionally cut off from most people in their life.

Adolescence, with all the changes that accompany it, can be an intense time where teens are overwhelmed by new feelings. Substance abuse in teenagers can appear as attention seeking, and/or isolating behavior.

Reaching out in times of challenge is always a wise decision. If you have noticed changes in your teen’s behavior that leads you to suspect that drugs are involved, I have numerous resources available to help them.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

Menu of Services Offered:

Call Now to Schedule a Free Consultation!

Click to Call:

(310) 951-5678
.

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Respectful Parenting of Teens

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A Note From the Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Were you aware that your parent-child connection is at the heart of your teen’s willingness to cooperate, and adhere to your limits? – Sandra

Frequently, I see parents using punishment to try and influence their teen’s behavior, often resulting in power struggles and resentment–on both parts. It is also not uncommon for parents to repeat similar parenting responses to the ones they saw modeled by their own parents.

My job is to help parents slow down and become curious about what their teen’s behavior may say about what they are needing in that moment. Although it is definitely appropriate to set boundaries and have expectations for your teen’s behavior, it is also essential to teach them helpful ways of responding to their frustrations and challenges.

I provide parents with a safe environment where they can feel understood. Through discussing sensitive or heated topics with the parents of teens, I have a wonderful opportunity to give these parents a direct experience of what sensitivity and responsiveness to their teen can look like.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

Menu of Services Offered:

Call Now to Schedule a Free Consultation!

Click to Call:

(310) 951-5678
.

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Is Your Teen Depressed?

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A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Teen depression seems to be on the rise, affecting one out of every 20 teenagers. What is the cause … and what is the solution? – Sandra

During the teenage years, the pressure to conform with their peers can be incredibly strong. If kids feel different, inadequate or deprived in some way, then feelings of self-loathing and depression may be the result. With Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram so prevalent, teens are being bombarded with images that they feel they need to live up to.

There are also increasing concerns about competition for college, and the endless hours that are going into creating the perfect resume with extracurricular activities and advanced coursework. Today’s adolescents are exhausted, overwhelmed and breaking down.

It is important for parents to make a distinction between situational depression: which is a normal reaction to stress or loss, and clinical depression: believed to be caused by brain chemistry and not related to external situations. Regardless of the cause, it can be beneficial for teens to receive support going through these periods from a trained professional.

“The idea that one must be, and look, endlessly cheerful is a destructive and daunting expectation for teens.” says Dr. Andrew Weil, who feels that kids need to learn that happiness is not some end point to be achieved. I teach teens how to discover a sense of peace and contentment through life’s ups and downs, see and accept life as is, and find ways to respond effectively to each situation.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

Menu of Services Offered:

Call Now to Schedule a Free Consultation!

Click to Call:

(310) 951-5678
.

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.