Teaching Teens To Earn Parent’s Trust

A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Parents often struggle with the issue of giving their teen the freedom to grow, and the responsibility of teaching them about life and keeping them safe. Sandra

Raising a child today is tricky business. The internet allows kids to connect with people they might otherwise not have contact with. Cell phones allow kids to talk to people at all hours of the day and night without their parents having any idea of what they are talking about. This is terrifying for parents, who want to protect their children from harm.

Trust is something that is earned. In answering your questions, parents have an opportunity to help their teen recognize that they are in fact making mature and responsible choices. I encourage you to have a conversation with your teen about your concerns, and your desire for them to win your trust. Tell them directly what it would take for you to give them more freedom.

If they are doing things they shouldn’t, as frustrating as it may be, your are doing them a huge favor by keeping an eye on them. Adolescence is a time of exploration, and unfortunately, its easy to make some choices that are not very wise, and/or unsafe.

If, in fact, they are doing everything you is asking of them, and you find yourself still wanting to micro-manage their life, then you may be struggling with a particular parenting style. Some parents are just very anxious. Unfortunately, like a personality style, these things don’t change very easily. In this situation, the best advice I can give you is to get some parenting support.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

How To Look Cool In Middle School

A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Middle School is a time when the opinions of friends become very important, and pre-teens often wonder about how to fit in. – Sandra

Adolescence is a time when young people are discovering who they are and how they want to be perceived in the world. One of the challenges that pre-teens face during this time is that each family has their own set of rules.

The key is to respond to your pre-teen’s requests with respect and creativity. The privilege of staying up later is something that can be earned. One option is talk about how they might earn the privilege of staying up a little later.

Some shows that are on at night have adult language and behavior that some parents would prefer that their children not watch. It could be helpful to learn more about the shows they are referring to. If you are open to their watching these shows, but are just concerned about them getting enough sleep on a school night, then perhaps you would consider taping them for your child and allowing them to watch the show at an earlier time the following day, or on the weekend.

The bottom line is that there is a good chance that your child will find themselves in situations where they are not allowed to do everything that all of their friends are doing. As long as they live in your house, you will be setting some rules.

The better your relationship with your child, the better chance you have of calmly negotiating with them for what they want. And in those times when they don’t get their way, it’s important for them to know that they are not the only one who struggles with parents who set limits.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

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Low-fee Mental Health Services for LA Families

A Note From The Santa Monica Family Therapist

Scroll down to see the entire list of low fee mental health services, including San Fernando Valley, San Gabriel Valley, Downtown Los Angeles, West Los Angeles and the South Bay areas. – Sandra

Glendale, Burbank, Pasadena

Bridge Focus
2829 N. Glenoaks Blvd., #203
Burbank, CA 91504
(818) 563-5509

Center for Individual & Family Counseling
5445 Laurel Canyon Blvd.
North Hollywood, CA 91607
(818) 761-2227

Community Family Counseling Services
131 N. Isabel St.
Glendale, CA 91206
(818) 548-4872

Discovery House
2541 Foothill Blvd.
La Crescenta, CA 91214
(818) 957-1221

Family Service Agency of Burbank
2013 W. Magnolia Blvd.
Burbank, CA 91506
(818) 845-7671

Foothill Family Service
2500 E. Foothill Blvd., Ste. 300
Pasadena, CA 91107
(626) 564-1613

Foothill Family Service
118 S. Oak Knoll Ave.
Pasadena, CA 91101-2667
(626) 795-6907

FrontPoint Child and Family Therapy
Pasadena, CA
(626) 396-9502

Glen Roberts Child Study Center
1530 E. Colorado St.
Glendale, CA 91205
(818) 244-0222

La Vie Counseling Center
Pasadena, CA
(626) 351-9616

New Horizons Family Center
744 S. Glendale Ave.
Glendale, CA 91205
(818) 545-9848

New Insights Program
431 N. Brand Blvd., Ste 311
Glendale, CA 91203
(818) 242-2308

Pacific Clinics
909 S. Fair Oaks Ave.
Pasadena, CA
(626) 795-8471

Pacific Clinics
70 N. Hudson
Pasadena, CA 91101
(626) 795-8471

Pacific Clinics
237 N. Central Ave., 2nd Flr.
Glendale, CA 91203
(818) 547-9544

Pasadena Mental Health Center
1495 N. Lake Ave.
Pasadena, CA 91104
(626) 798-0907

Positive Directions
1540 E. Colorado St.
Glendale, CA 91205
(818) 247-8180

Fuller Psychological Family Services
180 N. Oakland Ave.
Pasadena, CA 91101
(626) 584-5200

Rose City Counseling Center
595 E. Colorado Blvd., Ste. 303
Pasadena, CA 91101
(626) 793-8629

Senior Peer Counseling
VMH Care
1540 E. Colorado St.
Glendale, CA
(818) 638-5499

Verdugo Mental Health Center
1540 E. Colorado St.
Glendale, CA 91205
(818) 244-7257

Westminster Counseling Center
867 E. Atchison St.
Pasadena, CA 91104
(626) 798-0915

San Fernando Valley

California Family Counseling Center
5445 Balboa Blvd.
Encino, CA 91316
(818) 386-5600
(818) 907-9980

Catholic Charities
Van Nuys, CA
(818) 988-2850

Coldwater Counseling Center
Encino, CA
(818) 907-9980

Coldwater Counseling Center
Studio City, CA
(818) 508-0703

Counseling West
(818) 999-6164

Family Stress Center
16861 Parthenia St.
North Hills, CA 91343
(818) 830-3270

Friends of the Family
14350 Sherman Way, Ste. 140
Van Nuys, CA
(818) 988-4430

Pepperdine Community Counseling Center
16830 Ventura Blvd., Ste. 216
Encino, CA 91436
(818) 501-1678
(866) 396-8970

San Fernando Valley Counseling Center
8350 Reseda Blvd.
Northridge, CA 91324
(818) 341-1111

San Fernando Valley Low Cost Therapy Referral Line
(818) 754-4555

Tarzana Treatment Center
(818) 996-1051

Valley Community Clinic
6801 Coldwater Canyon Ave.
North Hollywood, CA
(818) 763-2084

Valley Counseling
Encino, CA
(818) 995-0368

Valley Family Center
302 South Brand
San Fernando, CA
(818) 365-8588
(818) 886-0453

Van Nuys Alcohol and Drug Treatment
14558 Sylvan St.
Van Nuys, CA 91411
(818) 787-4151

West Valley Counseling
19634 Ventura Blvd.
Tarzana, CA 91356

San Gabriel Valley

Family Counseling Service
San Gabriel, CA
(626) 575-5231

Family Service of Pomona Valley
Pomona, CA
(909) 620-1776

Foothill Family Services
1215 W. West Covina Pkwy., 2nd Fl.
West Covina, CA 91790

La Puente Valley Mental Health Center
La Puente, CA
(626) 227-7018

Options/The Family Center
Covina, CA
(626) 967-0732
(626) 967-5103

Santa Anita Family Service
Covina, CA
(626) 966-1755

Santa Anita Family Service
121 S. Santa Anita St.
San Gabriel, CA
(626) 308-1414

Santa Anita Family Service
605 S. Myrtle Ave.
Monrovia, CA 91016
(626) 359-9358

Downtown Los Angeles

AIDS Project L.A
611 S. Kingsley Dr.
Los Angeles, CA 90005
(213) 201-1600

Family Service of Los Angeles
626 S. Kingsley Dr.
Los Angeles, CA
(213) 381-3626

Family Service of Los Angeles
1328 W. Manchester Ave.
Los Angeles, CA
(213) 788-9593

Pediatric Psychology Program
Children’s Hospital
4650 Sunset Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90027
(323) 361-2350

Southern California Counseling Center
5615 Pico Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA
(323) 937-1344

USC Human Relations Center
Los Angeles, CA
(213) 937-1344
(213) 740-1600

Watts Counseling and Learning Center
Los Angeles, CA
(323) 754-9900

East Los Angeles

ENKI/East Los Angeles Mental Health Services
Commerce, CA
(323) 725-1337

Family Service of Los Angeles
7702 Washington Ave., Ste. C
Whittier, CA 90608
(310) 698-7941

Human Services Association
Bell Gardens, CA
(562) 806-5400

West Los Angeles

Airport Marina Counseling Services
7891 LaTiera Blvd.
Westchester, CA 90045
(310) 670-1410

Antioch University Counseling Center
400 Corporate Pointe
Culver City, CA 90230
(310) 574-2813

Antioch University Counseling Center International
2001 S. Barrington, Ste. 110
Los Angeles, CA 90025
(310) 477-7702

California Graduate Institute Counseling Center
Westwood, CA
(310) 208-4240

Didi Hirsch Community Mental Health
4760 S. Sepulvda Blvd.
Culver City, CA
(310) 390-6612

Family Service of Santa Monica
1533 Euclid Street
Santa Monica, CA 90404
(310) 451-9747

Hollywood Sunset Free Clinic
3324 Sunset Blvd.
Los Angeles
(323) 660-2400

Jewish Family Services
Los Angeles, CA
(323) 761-8816

Jewish Family Services
Santa Monica, CA
(310) 393-0732

Jewish Family Services
West Los Angeles, CA
(323) 761-8800

Julia Ann Singer Center
West Los Angeles, CA
(310) 202-0669

Los Angeles Gay & Lesbian Center
1625 N. Schrader Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90028
(323) 993-7400

The Maple Counseling Center
9107 Wilshire Boulevard, Lower Level
Beverly Hills, CA 90210
(310) 271-9999

New Start
2714 W Pico
Santa Monica, CA
(310) 452-0717

Open Paths
12655 W. Washington Blvd., Suite 101
Los Angeles, CA 90066
(310) 398-7877

Pepperdine Psychology Clinic
Culver City
(866) 396-8970

Psychological and Educational Clinic
Pepperdine University Plaza
Culver City, CA
(310) 568-5752

Reiss-Davis Child Study Center
Culver City, CA
(310) 204-1666

Santa Monica Counseling Center & Institute
2210 Santa Monica Boulevard, Suite C
Santa Monica, CA 90404
(310) 395-4024

The Saturday Center for Psychotherapy
3201 Wilshire Blvd., Ste. 201
Santa Monica, CA 90403
(310) 829-0888

Southern California Counseling Center
5615 W. Pico Boulevard
Los Angeles, CA 90019
(323) 937-1344

St. Johns Hospital, Mental Health
Santa Monica, CA
(310) 315-6132

UCLA Outpatient NPI EDU
Westwood, CA
(310) 825-0478

UCLA Psychology Clinic
Westwood, CA
(310) 825-2305

Ways of Being Community Counseling Center
Antioch University Counseling Center
400 Corporate Pointe
Culver City, CA 90230
(310) 574-2813

The Wellness Community-West Los Angeles
2716 Ocean Park Boulevard, Suite 1040
Santa Monica, CA 90405
(310) 314-2555

The Women’s Clinic and Family Counseling Center
9911 W. Pico Blvd.
(310) 203-8899

Wright Institute Los Angeles
9911 W. Pico Boulevard, Suite 720
Los Angeles, CA 90035
(310) 277-2796

South Bay

Community Family Guidance Center
Cerritos, CA
(562) 924-5526

Family Service of Long Beach
21420 Pioneer Blvd.
Lakewood, CA 90712
(310) 436-9893

Family Services of Long Beach
5500 Atherton St., Ste. 416
Long Beach, CA 90815
(562) 924-5526

The Guidance Center
Long Beach, CA
(562) 485-2557

Jewish Family Services Childrens Services
Long Beach, CA
(562) 427-7916

Jewish Family Services South Bay
Torrance, CA
(310) 761-8816

South Bay Center of Counseling
El Segundo, CA
(310) 414-2090
If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

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Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Teen Talk: Are You Having Mood Swings?

A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Here is some important information that describes the neurological changes that occur in teenager’s brains. Sandra

  • Have you ever felt blue for no obvious reason?
  • Do you ever do things on impulse that you later regret?
  • Have you ever overreacted to a situation and later wondered why?

Adolescence is now starting at younger ages than in previous generations. The average age that girls go into adolescence is between 10 and 11, when they reach 17% body fat. Boys go into adolescence between 12 and 13.

Teenagers are going through a transitional time when the brain rewires itself for emotional attachment, reproduction, and ultimately the creation of a stable family structure, thus ensuring future generations.

There can be a noticeable gap between intelligence and behavior during the teen years. We used to attribute this to the assault of a hormonal hurricane. There is actually a lot more going on in the different structures of the teenage brain that end up having long-term consequences.

The myelin sheathing, which insulates nerves, increases by 100% in teenagers. Myelin sheathing is responsible for the conduction of nerve impulses to the brain. As the nerves become twice as efficient, this feeds the intensity and speed of a person’s reaction.

The teen years are also time of the lowest levels of Serotonin in the human brain during human life. Serotonin is the primary transmitter in the limbic system, having to do with morale and moods. Low serotonin levels create a state in which a teen can become susceptible to stress and overwhelm.

The brain does not grow in an orderly fashion. It first over-produces a bunch of connections that go to new parts of the brain. Then, in the later teen years-around age 16 through the mid-20’s-it starts eliminating connections based on how frequently they are used. The connections that remain determine who a person feels they are for the rest of their life.

Did you know that the teenage brain does not complete development until close to age 25? Yes, something called the pre-frontal cortex, which is responsible for impulse control and operates much like the CEO of a company, does not come online fully until your mid-twenties.

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

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Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Teen Talk: Making Peace With School Uniforms

A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

You can still express your unique style while still wearing a school uniform...Sandra

School uniforms are designed to make everyone look similar. Since adolescence is a time when boys and girls start checking each other out, some girls try to stand out in different ways. What kind of attention do you imagine the popular girl’s outfits are attracting? Is that the kind of attention you want, or were you looking for something else?

The fact that you want to follow the dress code shows respect for your school. I think your parents and teachers will appreciate that, and in return, treat you with respect. As for looking cute, there are other creative ways to approach that goal. Although I don’t know your exact uniform, I do know that there may be options in regards to how you wear your hair, as well as accessorizing with bracelets, necklaces, leggings and tights, and shoes.

It is important to find a style that feels right for you. You don’t necessarily have to look like everyone else. However, clothing is just one of the ways that you can express the unique person that you are. A very wise person once told me, “one of the best thing to wear to school and really stand out is a smile.”

If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

Menu of Services Offered:

Call Now to Schedule a Free Consultation!

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For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Pre-Teens And Summer Camp

A Note From The Santa Monica Teen & Family Therapist

Read on for ideas on how you can support your pre-teen when going away to summer camp for the first time. – Sandra

Traveling away from home for the first time and leaving behind everything that is familiar to them can be scary for pre-teens. They don’t know what to expect and aren’t sure how people are going to respond to them. What they need to focus on is that it can also be a very exciting time! Adventure awaits them … along with the possibility of new friendships.

Summer camp is an opportunity for your pre-teen to practice their social skills and grow as a person. By stepping outside of their normal routine, they get a chance to learn from others, and return to school in the fall with new experiences under their belt.

One of the ways young people can deal with being homesick is to take something with them that feels comforting. One girl I know took a pillowcase with a photo of her family on it. Another took a pre-addressed notecards to send home letters telling her friends about her trip. At the very least, your pre-teen can take a couple photos to look at whenever s/he wants, and perhaps share with the people they meet.

The first day of camp is like the first day back at school after summer break. People who already know each other gather together and visit. Your pre-teen should to see who looks interesting to them, and introduce themselves. There are probably other new people like them who are very open to getting to know them.

They also want to try and participate in all the activities, and avoid making any snap judgments about people. By giving themselves permission to really enjoy themselves, and even be silly, they are more likely to have fun.

Remind your teen that summer camp is meant to be a break from school, so they don’t need worry about doing everything right.  A big key is having a good attitude. Kindness, gratitude and a sense of humor go a long way towards making new friends. Ultimately, they should seek out people who make them laugh, and spend time with them.  
If your teen or young adult child is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it.

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For more information, please visit my website:

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Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.